Twenty-five years ago, Steve Ware became a Big
Brother to Todd Hill - a friendship that has endured
even past the official "Big Brother/Little
Brother" match closing date. Steve made the
decision to volunteer after serving as a Big Brother
during his college years in Iowa. He had a good
experience and enjoyed getting involved in the
community.
Todd was matched with Steve in the Fall of the
1978, just as Todd turned 11 years old. Todd's
father was not involved in his life, and having
Steve as a male influence meant a lot to him,
especially since most of his relatives were female.
Todd remembers attending his first Arkansas Razorback
football game in Fayetteville with Steve, plus
a trip to see the St. Louis Cardinals. Steve attended
Todd's school activities, and according to Steve,
"Todd was a good student who was well behaved
and who didn't want to disappoint anyone."
"The way it worked out, Todd grew up with
all of our kids," Steve said. Todd also was
included in big family dinners and he particularly
enjoyed "Planters Day" at Terry Renaud
household, the home of Steve's in-laws. On this
day, all family members gathered to clear the
old garden and plant a new one.
One of Todd's favorite memories involves red
sweatpants. Todd said Steve's comfort outfit was
a pair of old, red sweatpants that he wore in
the garage while smoking a cigar and playing the
oldies radio station. Smiling, Steve said, "Todd
even knew my bad habits," but the good habits
helped shape this young man's life.
Five years ago, the Big Brothers Big Sisters
agency celebrated 30 years of mentoring and invited
Todd and Steve to speak about their experience.
There was not a dry eye in the room after Todd
spoke of the simple, yet powerful influence his
Big Brother made in his life. "Steve taught
me how to shake someone's hand and he also taught
me how to tie a tie for the first time."
The audience also learned Steve served as Todd's
best man when he was married twelve years ago.
Steve admits that sometimes he wasn't sure he
was doing all the right things, but he did know
that becoming a Big Brother was a benefit to him
personally. "It wasn't work at all. I've
always said that you find time for what you think
is important - it's not a job."
Todd graduated from Louisiana Tech University
with a degree in Mechanical Engineering and currently
works for the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers. Todd
is now 35 years old, married and has a 2-year-old
son.
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